Trauma & the Swiss Cheese Effect

I think one of the most misunderstood remnants of trauma that families talk to me about is rooted in real issues with memory.

Okay, so here is an instance in which you will ALL be better off (parent & child) when you can meet your child right where he is at. It all begins at the Hippocampus, the region in the brain where short-term memories are consolidated into long term memories. Research after research shows that damage to the Hippocampus can affect a person’s ability to learn new information and to maintain it (memory) and, that when this trauma happens during childhood, it results in severe effects.

I call this the Swiss Cheese Effect. (I am a very visual person) So visualize this with me… a big chunk of Swiss cheese. Not the cheap little blocks from the dairy section at your local grocery store, but the cheeses found in the specialty section – the REAL Swiss cheese. It has parts that are whole and solid, but it also has areas where there are big holes. I mean you can stick your finger right through a good piece of Swiss. To me, this visualization is a good representation of your child’s Hippocampus after having lived in trauma (remember they have all lost their primary attachment figure so that qualifies as trauma).

Here’s what happens. During a stressful time, our Limbic System calls for a fight or flight response to help us handle things. One of the tools it uses is the release of Cortisol. But normally after the stressor is gone, the Cortisol would return to normal levels. However, in especially traumatic situations excess Cortisol is released into the body. This release or flooding has negative effects on the brain, damaging the neurons in the Hippocampus… creating that Swiss Cheese Effect. Now, I want to specify that my visual for you is not literal, but figurative. The Hippocampus does not have holes in it per se; its neurons were damaged, meaning its function is like Swiss cheese. Sometimes the neurons connect and lots of times they don’t… like they are not there.

So let’s apply your new found knowledge to your child. Does your child have a hard time following directions, applying the rules to new situations, finding things, learning? Does it feel defiant or manipulative? In other words, do you ever think if he would just try harder he could do it or she just did that two days ago she is being defiant by not doing it correctly now. It is so crucial that as Intentional Parents you understand that this is NOT defiance in action… this IS deficit! This is about memory; you need to do it differently!

As parents, you can add to the negative and scary spin of the deficit by misunderstanding the deficit as defiance or you can stop the spin, create healing, and help your family flourish by meeting him right where he is at. It is real… many of our children do not have the ability to; remember the directions, where they put things, how then applies to now, make good choices, and so much more. So, be the Safety Net… the place where your child is most understood, which converts to most valued, which ultimately converts to healing.

Your family CAN flourish if you are Intentional Parents!



Source by Stacy Manning

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